“It has become appallingly obvious that our technology has exceeded our humanity.”
I read this quote recently and it got me thinking about mothers, and our propensity to feel guilty.
“Of all the luxuries technology affords us, thinking is without a doubt the greatest of all. With every technological advancement comes an increasing ability to save time and effort – every generation is more efficient and has a better quality of life.”
Simply put, our ancestors did not feel guilty because they didn’t have the time.
So why do we direct our thinking time and emotional energy into a non-useful emotion such as guilt? What is it about us mothers that causes us to feel guilty all the time? Why do we shoulder the guilt, while the men appear to get off scott free? Do we feel more deeply that our masculine counterparts? Do we have a greater capacity for love than them? Probably not.
In my experience, guilt is one of the most paralysing emotions a person can feel. It can eat us up internally and destroy our motivation to achieve our dreams and work towards our vision. However, it’s usefulness is much over rated and largely futile, if you are working towards measurable goals.
If you are working towards measurable goals then there will be no room for guilt. If you’re not, then make changes to get you back on track and lose the guilt.
Guilt serves no purpose in achieving goals.
Try these three simple steps to beat guilt once and for all:
- Set measurable goals for all areas of your life including husband, children, family, business and fitness. Consider what would be success in each area and what would be failure. Measure each week how you are doing.
- The next time you choose to feel guilty ask yourself, why? Why choose guilt over taking steps to make the situation right? Think about what you can do differently next time and pledge to follow through.
- Don’t allow others to try to cause you to feel guilty. Ask yourself, what does this person stand to gain if they cause me to feel guilty? Do they have my best interests at heart, or their own?
Eradicate the guilt, and you will live a life full of purpose and vision.
You will achieve more of what you want and have a greater peace of mind. And really, what’s more important than that anyway?