It has been said that fear defeats more men (or women) than anything else in this world.
Isn’t that amazing? Fear is the single biggest thing that stops us from going after what we want and achieving our dreams. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of what others will say, fear of leaving our kids in the care of someone else, fear that if we’re not at home keeping house for our spouse that they might not love us anymore.
However, if we think about it for a minute, it’s absolutely absurd. The dictionary defines fear as:
“An unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.”
So fear is basically a feeling caused by a belief. Or in other words, it’s not real. Fear is in our minds: it’s totally made up.
Sure, sometimes something bad might happen, and we can say “See, I was right not to do it!”. But most of the time it’s how we rationalise not doing the thing we know is good for us; the thing that will make a difference to our lives and our families, the thing the we really would love to do if only we could admit that it scares the crap out of us.
The first step to overcoming your fear is to acknowledge it.
Admit to yourself that you’re scared and you don’t know what to do or how to do it. Then admit it to someone else. Stop making excuses. You may find that if you actually own up to your fear that it lessens it. Kind of like how things always seem better in the morning, fear seems better when you bring it to the surface.