A few years ago, I learned how to make change permanent and today I want to share it with you.
In his book The Art of Happiness, His Holiness the Dalai Lama, claims that changing a behaviour involves specific steps, in order to make the change permanent:
If we take the example of smoking, in order to first quit you need to learn why smoking is bad for you. Then you need to increase that awareness until it brings about a firm conviction in your understanding of why smoking is bad for you. You don’t just know; you believe. This belief then brings about a determination to change. Most importantly however, is the effort that you must make to establish a new, non smoking habit.
Makes sense doesn’t it?
We all know that stopping smoking is hard: it takes persistent effort to finally kick the habit. It’s the same the starting or growing your own business. First you must be educated on why it would be good for you. Then you must develop a strong conviction about why it would be good for you and your family. Then you will find the determination to make it happen. Then it will bring about action. However, the last part is by far the hardest. Effort. Consistent, persistent effort.
If you try to jump straight to the effort part, without first developing the knowledge, the belief and the determination, it will be like building a house without a strong foundation. It may start out looking strong. But as soon as it is pitted against the elements, it will crumble and fall.
Starting and building a business is hard. There will be times when you will question yourself, you will worry and stress, and feel like packing it all in. In these tough times, it will be your conviction and belief that will see you through.
Find your belief, and you will find your strength.