It is often been said that women are complicated creatures, but are we really?
I speak to and connect with many mums on a daily basis, and there are three basic things that seem common to all of them, that if they are met, mean that we live a very happy and peaceful existence.
Seemingly all we want is:
1. For our kids to be healthy and happy
2. For our husband/partner to be loving and supportive
3. To occasionally have a little “me” time, away from the bustle of the family
Perhaps there might be a fourth or a fifth, but how many of you can read the statements above and disagree that if they were met almost 80% of the time, you would be content?
Yes yes I know that we’re not supposed to attach our happiness to external events or objects, and that happiness comes from within, and that happiness is a journey and not a destination etc etc etc. But seriously, does knowing all that ever actually make you feel any better?
So any men reading this, take note:
We are not complicated creatures who are hard to understand. Support us, love us and try to understand how hard it is to be a mum, constantly juggling the happiness and health of so many people.
Try to help more with the kids: take them on an outing to give us one hour of peace. We’re not asking for days here. Generally one hour is quite sufficient to recharge our batteries.
And most of all, try not to put us down or judge us. I promise, we are harder on ourselves than you could ever be; riddled with guilt and worry, and praying to God that we make the best choice for our families.
Help us with these things, and we will love you forever.