“Perfection is the lowest standard any human can have.”
How many times have you read the above quote since you opened this blog post? Can your brain compute it?
How can perfection be the lowest standard any human can have? Surely reaching for perfection is why we are here? Why we exist?
Consider for a moment when you were a child. Do you remember it being okay for you to make mistakes? When you seriously messed up and did something that caused destruction, did your parents just give you a loving hug and say, “Aw well dear, never mind”?
When we’re children we don’t understand why the big people get cross.
We don’t understand that they’re maybe having a bad day, or feeling a little sick, or worried about being late, or nervous in a new situation, or fearful of what people will think.
We have absolutely no way of understanding any of this.
So when they get mad and yell at us, we think it is because we have done something bad. We think it’s because we are bad, and that there is some standard that we were supposed to achieve, or some way we were supposed to behave, that we failed to meet.
We very quickly learn that failure is bad: it makes mommy cross and feels very bad for me, so therefore should be avoided at all costs.
But guess what?
You aren’t perfect and you never will be.
If perfection is your goal, then it’s absolutely the lowest standard you will ever have, because it’s not possible. You’re striving for something you will never achieve, and are setting yourself up for permanent failure.
Stop striving for perfection.
Recognise that you are the best you can be, in this very moment. Embrace your failures and use them as guidance for areas where you need to improve.
This is what makes a good person; a better person. Recognition will bring you closer to where you want to be.