Many women tell me on a daily basis that they are sometimes stuck for a bit of inspiration in deciding what they are good at. They would love to start a business or embark on a new venture, but frankly they don’t know where to start.
Yet, if you want to figure out who you really are, and what your contribution to the world could be, then you need to spend a little time getting to know yourself better. Sure, it may be uncomfortable at times; but do you think anyone got a free ride to the top of their game?
Having what you want involves risk and discomfort.
We are so used to living in the surface structure of our belief system, that we rarely delve deeper to uncover our true feelings on the subject at hand. Kind of like when your husband asks, “What’s wrong?” and you immediately reply “Nothing.”
Often times, there is something wrong, but we just don’t know what it is. But instead of being honest and admitting that we feel out of sorts but are unsure why, we numb the pain and pretend that we’re fine, when really we’re not. We preoccupy ourselves with being busy, or we eat a chocolate muffin or drink a glass of wine, to cover the unpleasant feeling of not feeling okay.
Stepping out of your comfort zone is tough, but extremely rewarding.
Trust me, I’ve been there. I was a stay at home mom to three young kids, beating myself up for wanting more than to be just a mom, but having no idea of how to get started on another path. It took me a long time to decide to take that first step to starting my own business.
If you too, are struggling, and feel that you need a little inspiration, try asking yourself these questions:
- If you could spend your time doing anything during the day, what would it be?
- What do you do to relax when you are at home?
- What are your favourite sports or activities?
- Why are they your favourite?
- If you could make money doing it, what would you spend your time doing?
- If you are upset or feeling down, what cheers you up?
- When you’re alone and completely free to do anything, what do you do?
- What was your favourite childhood game or activity?
- What did you dream you would be when you grew up?
- Have there been any fears, phobias or challenges that you have overcome in your life?
A good way to use these questions is not to do them all at once. You’ve waited this long, so a little longer won’t kill you.
Take one question, and meditate on it throughout the day. Keep the question close by, or post it on your wall or computer screen. Encourage yourself to think more deeply about the topic, and to really explore your belief system.
You might be surprised at what you find.
Do you have any questions you’d like to add to the list? Or any inspiration you can share with other aspiring entrepreneurs? I’d love to hear from you if you do. Please feel free to post a comment below. Both men and women contributors welcome!