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It’s Not The Critic Who Counts

I found this quote on a great blog by a friend of mine, and wanted to share it with you.

“It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better.

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again (because there is no effort without error or shortcoming), but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions.  

He who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.”
– Theodore Roosevelt

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Our Deepest Fear

Our Deepest Fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small
Does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
We were born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us;
It’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

~ Marianne Williamson ~

Don’t Make Money Your Goal

You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing, and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off you.

Maya Angelou

Why Trusting Your Instincts Is One Of The Most Important Lessons In Business

I found this passage by Steve Jobs, the recently deceased founder of Apple.  I thought it was very poignant.

Sometimes when we feel things aren’t going to plan, or moving in the right direction, it pays to remind ourselves of the message he brings here.  We don’t always know where the path will lead us…but we can be assured that every small step takes us closer to where we want to be.

“Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

Steve Jobs

Stuck For An Idea Or Inspiration? Try These 10 Questions To Inspire And Motivate You

Many women tell me on a daily basis that they are sometimes stuck for a bit of inspiration in deciding what they are good at.  They would love to start a business or embark on a new venture, but frankly they don’t know where to start.

Yet, if you want to figure out who you really are, and what your contribution to the world could be, then you need to spend a little time getting to know yourself better.  Sure, it may be uncomfortable at times; but do you think anyone got a free ride to the top of their game?

Having what you want involves risk and discomfort.  

We are so used to living in the surface structure of our belief system, that we rarely delve deeper to uncover our true feelings on the subject at hand.  Kind of like when your husband asks, “What’s wrong?” and you immediately reply “Nothing.”

Often times, there is something wrong, but we just don’t know what it is.  But instead of being honest and admitting that we feel out of sorts but are unsure why, we numb the pain and pretend that we’re fine, when really we’re not.  We preoccupy ourselves with being busy, or we eat a chocolate muffin or drink a glass of wine, to cover the unpleasant feeling of not feeling okay.

Stepping out of your comfort zone is tough, but extremely rewarding.

Trust me, I’ve been there.  I was a stay at home mom to three young kids, beating myself up for wanting more than to be just a mom, but having no idea of how to get started on another path.  It took me a long time to decide to take that first step to starting my own business.

If you too, are struggling, and feel that you need a little inspiration, try asking yourself these questions:

  1. If you could spend your time doing anything during the day, what would it be?
  2. What do you do to relax when you are at home?
  3. What are your favourite sports or activities?
  4. Why are they your favourite?
  5. If you could make money doing it, what would you spend your time doing?
  6. If you are upset or feeling down, what cheers you up?
  7. When you’re alone and completely free to do anything, what do you do?
  8. What was your favourite childhood game or activity?
  9. What did you dream you would be when you grew up?
  10. Have there been any fears, phobias or challenges that you have overcome in your life?

A good way to use these questions is not to do them all at once.  You’ve waited this long, so a little longer won’t kill you.

Take one question, and meditate on it throughout the day.  Keep the question close by, or post it on your wall or computer screen.  Encourage yourself to think more deeply about the topic, and to really explore your belief system.

You might be surprised at what you find.

Do you have any questions you’d like to add to the list?  Or any inspiration you can share with other aspiring entrepreneurs?  I’d love to hear from you if you do.  Please feel free to post a comment below.  Both men and women contributors welcome!

 

 

A Simple Step to Find the Motivation to Succeed

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I was really saddened this weekend when we received devastating news.

My cousin’s 15 year old son was walking back from the chip shop with his friend on Friday night, a mere 100 yards from his house, when a car came very fast around the corner and hit him from behind.  His dad ran in his socks down the road when he got a call from his hysterical friend.  But the car had hit him too fast, and his beautiful son died in his arms.

I have been disturbed all weekend and my sleep has been restless.  No one could have loved their children more than Michael did.  Everything he did, he did for those kids and I’ve yet to meet a more devoted father.  Every time since I’ve looked at my kids, I’ve wanted to hold them fiercely to me, to protect them, to love them, to never let go.  For to lose a child is surely every parent’s worst nightmare.

I once heard someone say that you don’t know the capacity you have to love, until you have a child.  Certainly, I never really understood how all consuming love could be, until I gave birth to my first baby.

I remember looking at Corey when I was pregnant with Kai, and wondering if it was possible that I would ever love the new baby as much as I loved him.  But of course I did, and have loved two more since.  And with the birth of all those beautiful children, I found myself.  I found my reason for living, my reason for striving and my reason for wanting to create a better world.

Until I had children there existed no motivation big enough, to push me into doing the thing I always wanted to do – become an entrepreneur and start multiple businesses.  Until I had children, my dreams were just that – dreams.  Putting them into practice always seemed too hard, too much work and too much of a step into the unknown.  

I was comfortable in my life.  And in this instance, comfort was not my friend.  In this instance, comfort kept me from fulfilling my true potential and living the life I’d always dreamed of.

The moral of this story?

Don’t let being comfortable stop you from fulfilling your potential and living your dream.  Life is short.  Life is precious.  And we never know when it will end.  Don’t be satisfied with mediocrity and don’t settle for the norm.

You know what you want to do, so what’s stopping you from doing it?  Be honest.  Don’t kid yourself.

If you can’t find the motivation within yourself then look to your children.  If you can’t do it for you, do it for them.

Mompreneur In The Making: Five Ways To Turn your Dreams into a Business

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If you want to know where your heart is, look to where your mind goes when it wanders.

There are so many aspiring Mumpreneurs out there who have the entrepreneurial spirit but just don’t know what to do with it.  They want to start their own business and earn their own incomes but they have no idea where to begin.  They ask themselves questions like “What am I even good at?”  “How would I know which business to start?”.

Before I started my first company I had absolutely no clue what I wanted to do.  Then one day someone said to me “But Kim, you love your children and are passionate about their education and upbringing.  Why don’t you do something with that?”  I stared at the person in wide eyed amazement.  The thought had never even occurred to me!

I had heard of a multilingual kids company in New York who were doing amazing things with young children and so I set about finding out more about it.  Six months later, The Rainbow Garden was born.

The funny thing was that once I had set it up and run it for a year, I entered a different mindset.  I began to think more like a business person; my perception opened up and I began to see endless possibilities for new businesses.

I realised that many times the thing that stops us from acting is simply a fear of the unknown.  We’re creative women:  we can come up with all sorts of grand schemes for various things when the need arises.  But knowing how turn these ideas into a tangible business is the hard part, the part that requires work.  But when you do put in the work the creativity starts to flow, and the shift in perspective is immense.

Try these simple first steps to harness your entrepreneurial spirit:

1.  Write down all the things you are good at, or everything you love to do.  Your passions and your dreams.  This is your chance to be creative.  Don’t omit something because you think it is silly.  Dream big.

2.  Choose three to five things from your list that are truly your passions.  Choose the things that get you excited.  Choose the things that you would willingly leap out of bed in the morning to do, if you had the chance.

3.  Spend an hour on the internet researching the things you love.  Gather all the information that interests you.  Study the market around your passion.  Is there a gap in it?  Is there a service lacking?  Is there a niche that you could serve with your skill?

4.  Commit to spending an hour every day researching either by reading, listening or surfing the net.  Add fuel to your fire by gathering data. Ignite it, get excited, build belief.

5.  Keep a short daily diary or journal to record everything that sparks your interest, or where you potentially see a gap in the market.  There are no rules here.  The more possibilities your explore, the more likely you are to come across a new idea.

Question: Where have you found your best inspiration or ideas?  Please leave comments below.

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