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Why Failure Is Not Only Good, But Necessary

“Failure is part of the process, not a stand alone thing.”

Brene Brown

I was listening to a podcast by Brene Brown today and she said this during the talk and I was so moved by it that I wanted to share it with you.

Too often we believe that failure is bad.  Our whole self-worth is so tied up in succeeding, that we don’t realise that failure is necessary to achieve anything of real value.

Take an iron bar for example.  How do you know how strong it is or how much weight it can hold?  

When it fails.  

When the bar bends because it has reached it’s holding capacity, it experiences failure.  Do you think the bar blames itself and calls itself bad?  Do you think it gives up?

No.  That’s what we humans do.  

The bar (if it could indeed think for itself) would probably figure out a way to re-inforce itself to be stronger next time it tried to hold the weight.  Or alternatively, it would just accept that it had failed and be happy to be two shorter bars, or a bent bar, for the rest of it’s days.

If you want to succeed then you must realise that failure is necessary.

Not only is it necessary, it is intrinsic in the very process.  You cannot succeed without failure.

Consider also, that by not trying, you are failing already, so you have absolutely nothing to lose. 

So what are you waiting for?


Everything You Want Is On The Other Side Of Fear

But the thing that we don’t realise is that to lessen the fear, we just need to take small steps.

Sure, the leap from where you are now to where you want to be may seem immense; but what about the small step that moves you just a teeny tiny bit closer?

Is that scary?

What about the little itsy bitsy step after that one?

Is it scary?

Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither will your dreams be.  Stop making excuses.  You have everything you need right now.

I believe in you. 

Now get out there and do it.

A Little Goes A Long Way

I got a lovely compliment the other day from someone very dear to me.

She texted me to tell me how great she thought my blog was.  She finished by saying how it just goes to show that a little effort every day, soon becomes something huge.

When I started this blog, I committed to blogging for one year, every day.  I haven’t managed 100% success as I have missed around five days in total, from either circumstances beyond my control (no WiFi) or because I had something else going on, and I chose not to.

But all in all, I’ve achieved about 99% of my goal so far, and a little daily effort has turned into a large, valuable resource with over 1000 subscribers.

Kind of like my yoga practice.

Almost every time I attend a class, someone asks me how I can do the things I can do.  Persistent effort for about two years, I tell them.  I wasn’t always this bendy; it took lots of effort over time.

It got me thinking about the areas in which I am failing, and how I could adapt this principle to these areas, to turn failure into success.

So I’ve made a list and developed a daily practice for each area.  

1.  Save more money

2.  Be a better parent

3.  Eat more healthily

What are your areas you could improve on?  Would you like some help and support to develop a daily practice over time?

Please post a comment below.  You matter to me, and I’d love to hear from you.


The Formula For Success

Did you ever do a Chemistry experiment in school?

I remember being in Chemistry lab with my bunsen burner, tripod and petrie dish, with a various assortment of chemicals.  To be honest, I never really liked nor understood Chemistry, or why it was necessary to do these experiments.

But I do clearly remember that you needed to add the correct things at the correct times, to get the correct outcome.

Sometimes my experiments went wrong, and I didn’t get the desired outcome.  In these instances, I had to try to figure out what I forgot, or what I was missing, or what I didn’t do correctly, in order to try the experiment again and get the result I wanted.

Kind of like life really.  

If you have a goal, a dream or just something you want for yourself, then you need to figure out the formula to make it work.

If you try and you fail, then you have two choices:

1.  You can blame some external force for your failure, give up and tidy all the pieces away.

2.  You can go back, see what you are missing, and start over.

When you view success as an experiment, then you only really fail when you quit.  So don’t give up on what you want.

Find the missing resource and try again.



Why Trusting Your Instincts Is One Of The Most Important Lessons In Business

I found this passage by Steve Jobs, the recently deceased founder of Apple.  I thought it was very poignant.

Sometimes when we feel things aren’t going to plan, or moving in the right direction, it pays to remind ourselves of the message he brings here.  We don’t always know where the path will lead us…but we can be assured that every small step takes us closer to where we want to be.

“Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

Steve Jobs

Girl Power: Ability + Strategy = Self Sufficiency

Recently I had the honour of being included as an expert author on a blog called Girl Re-Imagined.

The concept for Girl Re-Imagined began as an experiential journey for the site’s founder, Sorilbran Stone. A mother, serial entrepreneur and information professional, Sorilbran has worked as a consultant for a wide range of micro-business owners and found that in business, much like in life, it is not the absence of ability and potential that keeps people from accomplishing their respective goals. 

Rather, it is the absence of strategies, resources and confidence that poses the greatest threat to success.

Particularly for women, the trap of even temporary poverty can quickly go from being situational to mental to permanent.  Girl Re-Imagined was designed to combat that threat.

Girl Re-Imagined helps women to attain self-sufficiency through the use of their own natural abilities and the implementation of intuitive, actionable strategies.  I am honoured to be part of such an amazing mission.

If you want to know more, you can visit the site here.

Or view my post here.

Putting Your Goals On Paper Is The First Step To Achieving Them

Successful people in all fields have something in common: They have made a commitment to write to themselves.

They have written down what they expect to happen in their lives, and they keep reminding themselves of it as often as they can.  Have you written to yourself lately?  How can you achieve your goals if you don’t know what they are?

Success isn’t so much about achieving an end goal:  it’s about the process.  Every time you write down a reasonable, manageable goal that can realistically be achieved if you work hard enough, you build belief in yourself and confidence that you can do it.  Every time you reach one of those goals, it builds on the one before it, until you achieve your ultimate or end goal.

You can apply this approach to anything you choose to do.

If you want to earn $50k per year, but you’re a stay at home mom, then the first thing you need to do is write it down.

Then you need to work out the steps necessary to achieve this goal.  Do you get a job or start up on your own?  That is your first step, so write it down.

Then when you achieve that step, now you need to work out how many customers or skills you need to earn enough to cover your outgoings.  That is your next step, write it down.

Then once your business is profitable, you can move into other products or services to increase your revenue streams.  That is your next step, write it down.

Not everyone is going to achieve every goal they set.  But don’t forget, you always the the results you deserve:  No more, and no less.

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