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The Plan

“I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time.  Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.”  E.B. White (author of Charlotte’s Web)

It is increasingly apparent to me that most of us are not programmed to proactively plan our lives.  And why would we be?

When we are children, our parents and then school, tell us what to do: when to eat, when to sleep, when to get up and where we can and can’t go.

We are not taught to choose the things that are important to us and follow them passionately.

Imagine the difference in the mindset of the next generation, if we set about learning this as adults, and then passing the message on.

The Daily Diary

It astounds me how many busy mums I meet don’t have an appointment diary.

If you are to fully embrace all that I am teaching here, then you need to purchase a diary today and start to use it immediately.

I prefer a page per day diary, as it gives me room to write all my notes and actionable activities.  I use my diary for everything.  I use spare pages to write notes from meetings, record my weekly wages, work out my finances and doodle my thoughts.  If I have all my information in one place, then a short search will find it easily and quickly.

I also use my iCal on my iPhone and MacBook to remind me of appointments and events (and to back up my physical diary).

But the diary is where the main To-Do list gets kept and it is the thing that drives my productivity forward.  It doesn’t need to be fancy, flowery or all singing and dancing (although if you were so inclined you could cover it with some pretty paper like you used to do with your school books as a child).

I cannot stress enough the importance of a physical diary. To be honest, I don’t really give a damn what you do with it.   But if you want to be organised, productive and have half a chance in hell of achieving some long term goals, then you need to just get one.

Today preferably.

 

 

Before I Die

Imagine that you are at the end of your life, on your deathbed; barely able to talk or move, but able to clearly hear what those around you are saying.

As you lie there, people visit you to pay their last respects.  They do not know that you can hear them, and so talk freely to each other about you.

What do they say?

What would your children say?

What would your family and friends say?

What would they say your major achievements were in your life?

What would they say about your quality of life?

What would they say you had missed out on in life?

If the answers you are imagining are not what you would like to hear, then it’s your responsibility to change them.

Life is marching on you won’t get another chance at this one.

How are you choosing to spend it? 

 

Visualisation With Intent

The famous golfer Jack Nicklaus apparently never hit a shot without first clearly visualising where the ball would go, which was usually “sitting up there high and white and pretty on the green.”

He was famed for claiming that a successful shot was 50% visualisation, 40% setup and only 10% swing.

Arnold Swarzenneger was adamant that pumping a weight one time with full consciousness was worth ten without mental awareness.

So what is really real then?

Actually the answer to this question is unimportant.  What is important is that thought, images and feelings have a greater influence on the world than we would like to believe.

Your intention for something; your image in your mind of how it should be, will be the single most powerful tool in helping you create it.

What kind of parent do you want to be?  

What kind of life do you want to have?

What way would you treat your customers?

How would you handle product returns?

Couple powerful intent with persistent practice, and the world is your oyster.

It’s Not The Critic Who Counts

I found this quote on a great blog by a friend of mine, and wanted to share it with you.

“It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better.

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again (because there is no effort without error or shortcoming), but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions.  

He who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.”
– Theodore Roosevelt

Our Deepest Fear

Our Deepest Fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small
Does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
We were born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us;
It’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

~ Marianne Williamson ~

Responsibility Exists Whether You Like It Or Not

Responsibility exists whether you like it or not.

Most of us equate it to being responsible directly for something or someone, with no real thought to what might come after.  Most of us also view responsibility as a negative, with fear of wrong doing or blame, just a small step away.

Yet, how far you are willing to see your responsibility in all things, depends on how wide you allow your perspective to be.

Consider the internet for example.

Every time you write something on the internet, it becomes part of human recorded history, forever.  

In times gone by, only those to took the time to preserve the written word, in books or on tablets, succeeded in affecting future generations of humanity.

Today, anyone can do it.  

Write a little something on your blog, and it is there forever more.

So in light of this, how carefully should we consider what we write on the web?  Do you write with a mindfulness of affecting future generations?  Are you careful to be truthful?  Factual?  Honourable?

As members of the human race we have a responsibility to think; we must care and we must love with our whole hearts.  As mothers, fathers, families and friends, we must be willing to help each other.

“When we write anything to the foundation of human history we must view it as a type of responsibility entrusted to us by a thousand, thousand future generations.  Our messages will persist, with their effects, long after we are gone. Global data and communication has elevated the position of writer to one of humanity’s highest, most sacred, offices. I can only hope each of us, in our capacity as a writer, approaches this work as humanity’s friend.” Keith Raniere

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