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What Makes You Happy?

I spend a lot of time figuring out what makes people happy.  

To do this of course, I start with myself and this is what I have come up with:

Happiness begins with developing an understanding of true sources of happiness (family, love, connection, effort strategies and self-esteem) and then setting our priorities in life, based on promoting and nurturing these sources.

Being happy also involves an inner discipline.  

It is a persistent process of actively looking for destructive mental states such as anger, suppression, guilt and envy, and trying to replace them with positive ones, such as kindness, compassion, forgiveness and love.

When my behaviour matches my beliefs (when I act as my highest self), I feel content, sated and happy.

To achieve true happiness, I always look for what is good and what is right and strive to be the best I can be in every moment.

What are your happy places?  When do you feel at your happiest?

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If You Want To See A Hint Of Your Future…

I found this picture on Tim Mushey’s blog and it reminded me of a quote by Tony Robbins which says:

“People’s lives are a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group.”

When I first heard this it really hit home to me as it’s similar to Seth Godin‘s philosophy of Tribes.  Basically, if you want to change your behaviour, you should also consider changing the people who you spend time with.

Kind of like when you start going to the gym and get friendly with some other people who are fit and working out regularly.  Just spending time with these people is usually enough to motivate you to think and act differently.

Or when your child starts a new school and suddenly all your chat is about education, and school committees and other parent related topics.

If you want to be successful in business, then actively seek out a new group of people to spend time with.  

People who inspire and motivate you.  People who make you raise your personal bar of success.

It is these people who will help you to make the mental shift that is necessary, to go the extra mile.

Loving Your Children Deeply Could Change The World

“One generation of deeply loving parents would change the brain of the next generation, and with that, the world.

Dr Charles Raison

 

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Do you have the traits of a successful mumpreneur?

Almost on a daily basis women write to me to say how much they love my blog, and how much the advice I give inspires and motivates them.  It’s incredibly heartwarming to hear and in turn, it inspires me to keep writing and sharing.  Of course there are those who do not like my blog and are not inspired by what I write, and of course, that is fine too.  I am not writing for those people.  I’m writing to reach out to a very specific person, a certain type of mother.

Let me describe her to you:

She is an educated woman who enjoys stimulating conversation.  She is smart, savvy and has a great personality and sense of humour.  She is ready and willing to laugh at herself, and says many things very, tongue in cheek.  She enjoys connecting with other like minded women, and is social, generous and giving.

She cares deeply about other women, particularly mothers.  She feels another mum’s pain when she sees her child throwing a tantrum in public and the mother is struggling to cope.  But instead of judging the mother, she rushes to help her.

She is insanely protective of her children, wanting only the very best for them.  She loves deeply and feels happiest when her family is together, healthy and thriving.

Yet she wants something more for herself.  

She loves her kids, but still….. there is a hankering after something better. She has a brain and feels like she doesn’t much get to use it but, she feels guilty for thinking this way, knowing how blessed she is. She swings between happiness and occasional discontent.  Sometimes she asks, surely there must be more than this?

Some Mumpreneurs don’t have an idea for a business yet, but they do have a desire.  It might only be a flickering flame of desire, but it burns deep inside, waiting to be ignited and encouraged.  But how does one begin?

Other Mumpreneurs have taken the first step into their business, but now are unsure what to do next.  How does one grow?

And then there are those Mumpreneurs who have established businesses that are thriving and successful, and now they want to connect with and inspire other Mumpreneurs.  But where does one find them?

Women are strong.  We are leaders, visionaries and humanitarians who understand the value of life, and want to provide a better quality of it for our loved ones.  I believe we work better in tribes.  I’m honoured that you share your time with me and I’m proud to be part of your tribe.

Question: What do you struggle with as a Mumpreneur?  Please feel free to leave a comment below.

 

Feeling unmotivated? Three strategies for Mumpreneurs to get back on track

You start your new business.  You’re so motivated and excited that you find it hard to sleep.  You dream of all the riches that will come, the happiness it will bring and you can’t wait to get started on the road to financial freedom and business success.  You work flat out like a beaver, getting it all set up.

Fast forward three to six months and your enthusiasm starts to wane a little.  The challenging aspects of the business that you were excited about in the beginning are now a little bit hard.  Where you were enthusiastic and driven, well, now you’re a little bit downtrodden.  It’s almost as if someone asked you to hold a rock for a while, and it’s becoming heavy and you want to set it down for a while.

Does any of this sound familiar?  I know that’s how it was for me in the beginning and probably several times since.

Don’t despair and don’t give up!

This is a completely normal pattern of behaviour.  Once routine is established and something becomes normal, it’s easy to lose sight of why you wanted it in the first place.  The financial freedom isn’t yet in sight, you’ve exhausted all your current resources to find new clients, and your business just isn’t growing as fast as you would like it to.

A lot of people at this point will consider giving up, and understandably so.  Why continue with something that doesn’t seem to be giving you the things that you thought it would?  It’s easy to become disheartened.

However, now is the perfect time to stand back and reassess.  Whereas at the start you were probably too excited to really sit down and take a strategic look at your business, now your enthusiasm is waning, you can channel the down time into something productive.

Try these three strategies when your enthusiasm starts to wane:

1.  Find and join an association or group of like minded people

Having like minded people to bounce ideas off can be incredible for your motivation.  When I had my first baby I followed Gina Ford’s Contented Baby routines.  I joined the website community, and found a whole host of new friends and confidants on the forums, as well as a huge amount of useful tips and information.  At the time, it was the best money I ever spent and I became a better parent as a result.  Being a member of a like-minded community of people is one of the best things you can do for yourself and your mindset.

2.  Draw up a detailed overview of the business so far and use this information to do a simple business plan.  

Consider how much have you spent versus how much have you made.  How many products have you sold or clients have you served?  What has worked with your products or services and what hasn’t?  What small tweaks could be made to increase productivity?  Where could you leverage your time better?  Information is power and doing this will help you to feel in control again, and plan for the next three, six and twelve months.

3.  Invest in personal development

It has been said that you should spend 5% of your income and 5% of your time on personal development.  What products could you invest in that would enable you to build a better mind or skill set?  Where are you lacking?  Do you struggle with sales?  Finding new clients?  Using social media?  Seek out your weaknesses and make a point of improving them.

What are your top tips for staying motivated?  Please leave your comments below.  I’d love to hear them!

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5 tips for Mumpreneurs to achieve better work life balance

Following on from yesterday, I wanted to give you Michael Hyatt’s  five suggestions to find a work life balance that works for you.

It can be easy, as a Mumpreneur, to run around trying to everything at once and be all things to everybody.  Sound familiar?  The good news is that it doesn’t have to be that way.  With a little help and planning, you can achieve a balance that works for you and enables you to keep your priorities to your business and family, intact.  How?

Michael says:

1. Get crystal clear on your priorities.  Write them down. Get clear on your priorities and determine for yourself what matters most.

2. Schedule time for the things that matter most. I don’t know about you, but unless it’s on my schedule, it’s not likely to get done. The most important things have to appear on my calendar. Otherwise, they’re not going to get done.

3. Establish a brief set of non-negotiables. Let me just give you an example. I focus on personal development between 5:00 am and 8:00 am.  That’s one of my non-negotiables. Leave the office promptly at 6:00 pm. That’s another one of my non- negotiables.  Focus on the family between 6:30 pm and 8:00 pm, then I can go back to email or other projects after 8:00 pm. But to really have that time to eat a meal together, to sit down and talk, to talk about the things that happened that day, and to just process life together is important. Another non-negotiable for me is to take Gail on a date every week.

4. Strive for alignment between your priorities and your daily practice.  Again, I think priority management or priority alignment is a better metaphor than work-life balance.

5. Accept the fact that there will always be tension. This is not a problem to solve; it’s a tension to manage. I don’t think there is ever going to be this magical moment (I’m sorry to disappoint you) where you just suddenly achieve work-life balance or you’ve managed your priorities, you have them written down, and now everything is playing out exactly as you envisioned it. No. There’s always a tension. There’s always this tension or temptation to get things out of whack, to not live your life plan. I think you just have to accept that and be willing to keep working at it.

So to conclude this segment, let me leave you with this question: How are you doing at the practice of priority management?

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