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Before I Die

Imagine that you are at the end of your life, on your deathbed; barely able to talk or move, but able to clearly hear what those around you are saying.

As you lie there, people visit you to pay their last respects.  They do not know that you can hear them, and so talk freely to each other about you.

What do they say?

What would your children say?

What would your family and friends say?

What would they say your major achievements were in your life?

What would they say about your quality of life?

What would they say you had missed out on in life?

If the answers you are imagining are not what you would like to hear, then it’s your responsibility to change them.

Life is marching on you won’t get another chance at this one.

How are you choosing to spend it? 



Visualisation With Intent

The famous golfer Jack Nicklaus apparently never hit a shot without first clearly visualising where the ball would go, which was usually “sitting up there high and white and pretty on the green.”

He was famed for claiming that a successful shot was 50% visualisation, 40% setup and only 10% swing.

Arnold Swarzenneger was adamant that pumping a weight one time with full consciousness was worth ten without mental awareness.

So what is really real then?

Actually the answer to this question is unimportant.  What is important is that thought, images and feelings have a greater influence on the world than we would like to believe.

Your intention for something; your image in your mind of how it should be, will be the single most powerful tool in helping you create it.

What kind of parent do you want to be?  

What kind of life do you want to have?

What way would you treat your customers?

How would you handle product returns?

Couple powerful intent with persistent practice, and the world is your oyster.

Happy Baby Happy You

My sister Kerry Nevins has just started her very own blog, and amassed over sixteen likes of her first ever post!  

I am so proud of her.

She writes candidly and from the heart.  She offers no nonsense advice, and is great at bossing mums around when they need it the most, helping to ease their worries and make their path a little smoother.

I am honoured to share one of her posts with you today.

If you like what you read, and want to read more then hope you will visit her blog or Facebook page, and pass it on to any of your friends, who are struggling to cope with the demands of motherhood.

Step By Step

I remember when Amy was born, just staring at her and worrying about everything and anything, I felt like my world was turned upside down and nothing would ever be the same again.  Every time I looked at the back of her tiny neck, I cried.  I was a mess, so emotional, why couldn’t I just be happy?  I had the baby I had always longed for, she was so good, never cried, so content, yet I was falling to pieces.

My mum always told me that you have no control over your hormones – they control you.  You reason with yourself that you’re being ridiculous, that you should snap out of it, and aren’t you lucky you have a perfectly formed baby who’s as good as gold? Unfortunately, it’s just not that easy.  

If you are feeling overwhelmed with emotion then it’s time to put yourself first.  Friends and family will just have to wait to see your baby.  Take a ‘babymoon’, lock yourself away, ignore the phone and send those closest to you a message to say that you and your baby are taking a week or two to get to know one another.  You’re going to do this your way.

If people offer to help, don’t refuse.  Ask them to cook a meal or clean your windows – anything; they wouldn’t offer if they minded.  Think about how you feel when someone asks for your help – you’re flattered and eager to do your best to please them.  

Stop comparing yourself to other mums and how they’re coping, concentrate on yourself – most mums let on that they’re fine and, yes, many are, but you’re not alone if you’re finding it tough.  

Amy’s eleven now and Harry’s nine, I had none of the emotion with Harry that I had with Amy (even though Amy was an angel and Harry was very unsettled).  

Step by step, tomorrow’s a new day, you can do this 🙂


What Will We Teach Today?

“An understanding heart is everything in a teacher, and cannot be esteemed highly enough. One looks back with appreciation to the brilliant teachers, but with gratitude to those who touched our human feeling. The curriculum is so much necessary raw material, but warmth is the vital element for the growing plant and for the soul of the child.”   Carl Jung

My oldest niece has recently started high school and it has been a very traumatic time for her and for my sister.

She is nearly twelve years old, and just on the cusp of womanhood, but yet in every way is still so much a child.  She is innocent, pure and sweet, but also has a maturity beyond her years.  The is thoughtful, inquisitive and quietly observant.

It has disturbed me just how difficult the transition into high school has been.  She has moved from a reasonably small primary school, where the teachers were kind and thoughtful, into an academic institution where the main mode of motivation seems to be humiliation and shame.

It has deeply troubled me, thinking of her innocence being stripped away layer by layer, with every degrading comment and scathing look, the downtrodden teachers have bestowed on her, and the other innocent incomers.

It astounds me that these teachers don’t seem to comprehend that they are raising the next generation of society.  Every day I hear people complain about the state of the world, yet why do we not speak up and do something about it?

Our footballers are paid thousands if not millions of pounds every week, yet we pay our teachers a pittance.  Where is the logic in that?  Would the world be a better place if we had more sports stars, or a more deeply loved generation of society?

Einstein is quoted as saying that the world is not a bad place because of the people who to bad things, but because of the people who stand by and say nothing.

Please, don’t stand by.  Speak up when you see something not right.  Do not allow it to be acceptable.  If not for yourself, then for your children.

Let’s make this world a better place to live, so they may be treated with respect and kindness, and not live in fear or humiliation or shame.

Me Or You?

I have been in sales my whole life.

In fact, you are also in sales whether you like it or not.  Every time we tell someone about something we love, and encourage them to try that thing too, we are selling to them.

I have always had the “Gift of the Gab” meaning that I could talk a good story, and am never short of conversation.  However, until recently I was never really concerned with the ethics of selling something to someone.  I prided myself on being able to sell ice to Eskimos, without ever actually questioning whether the Eskimos actually needed new ice.

I mean, what pride is there to be gained from selling someone something that they don’t particularly need or want?

So ask yourself, are you truly concerned with the benefits your product or service will bring to your customers?  How it will change their lives?

If your main concern is making money then your primary focus is not serving the needs of others.

Give abundantly, and you will receive abundantly.  Make their needs more important than yours.

Help and Serve

“Nothing liberates our greatness like the desire to help and the desire to serve.”  Marianne Williamson

How many of your customers/friends/colleagues have you mindfully helped or served today?

Pick up the phone, offer to help, do something nice or unexpectedly helpful.

Liberate your greatness.

Small Is Beautiful

Today’s blog is a guest post by marketeer, mum of twins and long standing buddy of mine, Lyndsey McCullough.  

Many people who run businesses may dream of the day when their company is considered “large” (over 75 employees).  

But as Lyndsey explains, bigger is not always necessary better…

Small is Beautiful

When I first started out as a bright-eyed and bushy-tailed business graduate, I worked for a small start-up company. My role was titled “marketing executive”, yet it quickly became apparent that in small businesses you wear many hats.  So I performed a wide range of tasks from answering phones, creating new sales materials and selling products and services, to creating new services to sell, developing quality assurance procedures and doing accounts and payroll.  And every so often I badgered the company’s directors with strategic marketing questions like “Where is the company going?” and “What is our unique selling point?”

Even though I loved the variety of my work, I always felt in awe of the larger companies that we competed with. They had slick marketing campaigns and seemingly endless budgets at sales conferences to give away pens and glossy information packs; while I stood with little mini bags of Haribo sweets and a terrified smile, hoping no industry experts would ask me anything difficult.

I am now on the other side of the fence, working for a large multi-national company, and it never fails to amaze me that many of the challenges that I faced working in that small start-up exist on a much larger scale in big organisations. Like trying to find out where the business is going or how do we really differentiate ourselves in the marketplace?  I now have the luxury of wearing fewer hats, but the cost of this is that I don’t have any clue about how the other areas of the business are performing. I am now a small cog in a very large, slow-moving machine.

In my experience the key advantage that every small business owner has over the “big guys” is this – You KNOW your customers. You speak to them regularly, you get feedback directly – either by no return purchases or because they phone you and tell you. Large companies spend a fortune on market research to tell them exactly what you already know. They are always looking to small companies to learn how to do things better; to be more dynamic or to see what the “next big thing” will be.

So if you own or work in a small business, rejoice! Don’t be in awe of those large competitors – you are more of a threat to their business than they are to yours.


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