In my house my children (from age three up) are responsible for making their own beds, putting their clothes in the laundry basket, folding and tidying their pyjamas and tidying the bathroom after bathing.
They are also responsible for emptying the dishwasher, laying and clearing the table for dinner, vacuuming a room each and helping with the laundry.
The key here is to sit down and talk over the responsibilities with them, gaining their agreement to perform the tasks. No one likes to feel like they are being coerced or that they don’t have a choice. Gaining their consent first, means that you can hold them accountable when they don’t want to uphold their commitment.
You can also use the chores as a way for them to earn something they want. In our house the children have to earn their television and computer time. The amount of chores or piano practice they do directly correlates to the amount of time they get to watch or play these things.
If they choose not to do the chores, then the natural consequence is real for them.
We don’t particularly want them to watch television, and they only are allowed about two hours per week maximum. So having them earn it in this way really helps them to understand the privilege of living and how not to take things for granted.
Were you responsible for household chores as a child? Would love to hear your views.