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The Plan

“I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time.  Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.”  E.B. White (author of Charlotte’s Web)

It is increasingly apparent to me that most of us are not programmed to proactively plan our lives.  And why would we be?

When we are children, our parents and then school, tell us what to do: when to eat, when to sleep, when to get up and where we can and can’t go.

We are not taught to choose the things that are important to us and follow them passionately.

Imagine the difference in the mindset of the next generation, if we set about learning this as adults, and then passing the message on.

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It’s Not The Critic Who Counts

I found this quote on a great blog by a friend of mine, and wanted to share it with you.

“It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better.

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again (because there is no effort without error or shortcoming), but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions.  

He who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.”
– Theodore Roosevelt

Why Trusting Your Instincts Is One Of The Most Important Lessons In Business

I found this passage by Steve Jobs, the recently deceased founder of Apple.  I thought it was very poignant.

Sometimes when we feel things aren’t going to plan, or moving in the right direction, it pays to remind ourselves of the message he brings here.  We don’t always know where the path will lead us…but we can be assured that every small step takes us closer to where we want to be.

“Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

Steve Jobs

You Want Something, Go Get It. Period.

Girl Power: Ability + Strategy = Self Sufficiency

Recently I had the honour of being included as an expert author on a blog called Girl Re-Imagined.

The concept for Girl Re-Imagined began as an experiential journey for the site’s founder, Sorilbran Stone. A mother, serial entrepreneur and information professional, Sorilbran has worked as a consultant for a wide range of micro-business owners and found that in business, much like in life, it is not the absence of ability and potential that keeps people from accomplishing their respective goals. 

Rather, it is the absence of strategies, resources and confidence that poses the greatest threat to success.

Particularly for women, the trap of even temporary poverty can quickly go from being situational to mental to permanent.  Girl Re-Imagined was designed to combat that threat.

Girl Re-Imagined helps women to attain self-sufficiency through the use of their own natural abilities and the implementation of intuitive, actionable strategies.  I am honoured to be part of such an amazing mission.

If you want to know more, you can visit the site here.

Or view my post here.

Stuck For An Idea Or Inspiration? Try These 10 Questions To Inspire And Motivate You

Many women tell me on a daily basis that they are sometimes stuck for a bit of inspiration in deciding what they are good at.  They would love to start a business or embark on a new venture, but frankly they don’t know where to start.

Yet, if you want to figure out who you really are, and what your contribution to the world could be, then you need to spend a little time getting to know yourself better.  Sure, it may be uncomfortable at times; but do you think anyone got a free ride to the top of their game?

Having what you want involves risk and discomfort.  

We are so used to living in the surface structure of our belief system, that we rarely delve deeper to uncover our true feelings on the subject at hand.  Kind of like when your husband asks, “What’s wrong?” and you immediately reply “Nothing.”

Often times, there is something wrong, but we just don’t know what it is.  But instead of being honest and admitting that we feel out of sorts but are unsure why, we numb the pain and pretend that we’re fine, when really we’re not.  We preoccupy ourselves with being busy, or we eat a chocolate muffin or drink a glass of wine, to cover the unpleasant feeling of not feeling okay.

Stepping out of your comfort zone is tough, but extremely rewarding.

Trust me, I’ve been there.  I was a stay at home mom to three young kids, beating myself up for wanting more than to be just a mom, but having no idea of how to get started on another path.  It took me a long time to decide to take that first step to starting my own business.

If you too, are struggling, and feel that you need a little inspiration, try asking yourself these questions:

  1. If you could spend your time doing anything during the day, what would it be?
  2. What do you do to relax when you are at home?
  3. What are your favourite sports or activities?
  4. Why are they your favourite?
  5. If you could make money doing it, what would you spend your time doing?
  6. If you are upset or feeling down, what cheers you up?
  7. When you’re alone and completely free to do anything, what do you do?
  8. What was your favourite childhood game or activity?
  9. What did you dream you would be when you grew up?
  10. Have there been any fears, phobias or challenges that you have overcome in your life?

A good way to use these questions is not to do them all at once.  You’ve waited this long, so a little longer won’t kill you.

Take one question, and meditate on it throughout the day.  Keep the question close by, or post it on your wall or computer screen.  Encourage yourself to think more deeply about the topic, and to really explore your belief system.

You might be surprised at what you find.

Do you have any questions you’d like to add to the list?  Or any inspiration you can share with other aspiring entrepreneurs?  I’d love to hear from you if you do.  Please feel free to post a comment below.  Both men and women contributors welcome!

 

 

Mompreneur Connect: How To Live A Life Filled With Love And Courage, To Build Deeper Connections

I was eating out with my family the other night in a well known pizza restaurant in Belfast.  

As I sat in my chair, sipping my Peroni, I noticed two men sitting together at the table beside us.  They didn’t appear to be in a relationship, but instead looked like two men who hadn’t seen each other in a while, who were enjoying sharing a pizza and catching up.  I was able to openly study them, as they were so engrossed in conversation, they weren’t noticing anyone else.

As I sat there watching them, I had a moment of wonder; as if I was watching a movie.  One man was drinking a carafe of red wine, the other was sipping a beer.  They were sharing pizza and salad, and tearing bread to mop up the juices.  They really looked to be having a good time.  It was the kind of scene that if you were to see it in a movie, it would warm your heart.  You would be pulled into the scene and the lives of the characters, and feel as if you were there with them, loving, living and sharing.

What intrigued me about these two men was the intensity with which they were connecting.  

Human beings are put on this earth for connection – it is why we are here.  But yet connection requires courage and trust in order for it to happen.  We must be willing to expose our self – our whole self, if we are to truly experience a deep connection with another person.

Kind of like at the start of a relationship, when you only show your best side.  Over time, you feel more confident to show more of your likes and dislikes, as your fear of losing the other person, through exposing your own vulnerability, lessens.

Yet, when we are living superficially and only showing our best side, it is exhausting.  Being on “your best behaviour” requires emotional energy and a plastic smile; and it can never be the place where true connection happens.

For when you connect with someone, truly connect, you start to live life fully, and wholeheartedly.

The two men in the pizza restaurant were connecting fully and wholeheartedly, at least so it seemed.  Their interaction was genuine and full of courage.  And in that moment I realised that the only thing that matters is right now, this second.  This is where the magic happens; this is where life begins.  

In the words of an old proverb:

Yesterday is gone and tomorrow has not yet arrived.  

So live in each moment as if it is your last, and have courage to do it with love and with your whole heart.

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