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The Plan

“I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time.  Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.”  E.B. White (author of Charlotte’s Web)

It is increasingly apparent to me that most of us are not programmed to proactively plan our lives.  And why would we be?

When we are children, our parents and then school, tell us what to do: when to eat, when to sleep, when to get up and where we can and can’t go.

We are not taught to choose the things that are important to us and follow them passionately.

Imagine the difference in the mindset of the next generation, if we set about learning this as adults, and then passing the message on.

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Visualisation With Intent

The famous golfer Jack Nicklaus apparently never hit a shot without first clearly visualising where the ball would go, which was usually “sitting up there high and white and pretty on the green.”

He was famed for claiming that a successful shot was 50% visualisation, 40% setup and only 10% swing.

Arnold Swarzenneger was adamant that pumping a weight one time with full consciousness was worth ten without mental awareness.

So what is really real then?

Actually the answer to this question is unimportant.  What is important is that thought, images and feelings have a greater influence on the world than we would like to believe.

Your intention for something; your image in your mind of how it should be, will be the single most powerful tool in helping you create it.

What kind of parent do you want to be?  

What kind of life do you want to have?

What way would you treat your customers?

How would you handle product returns?

Couple powerful intent with persistent practice, and the world is your oyster.

If You Want To See A Hint Of Your Future…

I found this picture on Tim Mushey’s blog and it reminded me of a quote by Tony Robbins which says:

“People’s lives are a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group.”

When I first heard this it really hit home to me as it’s similar to Seth Godin‘s philosophy of Tribes.  Basically, if you want to change your behaviour, you should also consider changing the people who you spend time with.

Kind of like when you start going to the gym and get friendly with some other people who are fit and working out regularly.  Just spending time with these people is usually enough to motivate you to think and act differently.

Or when your child starts a new school and suddenly all your chat is about education, and school committees and other parent related topics.

If you want to be successful in business, then actively seek out a new group of people to spend time with.  

People who inspire and motivate you.  People who make you raise your personal bar of success.

It is these people who will help you to make the mental shift that is necessary, to go the extra mile.

The Formula For Success

Did you ever do a Chemistry experiment in school?

I remember being in Chemistry lab with my bunsen burner, tripod and petrie dish, with a various assortment of chemicals.  To be honest, I never really liked nor understood Chemistry, or why it was necessary to do these experiments.

But I do clearly remember that you needed to add the correct things at the correct times, to get the correct outcome.

Sometimes my experiments went wrong, and I didn’t get the desired outcome.  In these instances, I had to try to figure out what I forgot, or what I was missing, or what I didn’t do correctly, in order to try the experiment again and get the result I wanted.

Kind of like life really.  

If you have a goal, a dream or just something you want for yourself, then you need to figure out the formula to make it work.

If you try and you fail, then you have two choices:

1.  You can blame some external force for your failure, give up and tidy all the pieces away.

2.  You can go back, see what you are missing, and start over.

When you view success as an experiment, then you only really fail when you quit.  So don’t give up on what you want.

Find the missing resource and try again.

 

 

Why Trusting Your Instincts Is One Of The Most Important Lessons In Business

I found this passage by Steve Jobs, the recently deceased founder of Apple.  I thought it was very poignant.

Sometimes when we feel things aren’t going to plan, or moving in the right direction, it pays to remind ourselves of the message he brings here.  We don’t always know where the path will lead us…but we can be assured that every small step takes us closer to where we want to be.

“Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

Steve Jobs

Girl Power: Ability + Strategy = Self Sufficiency

Recently I had the honour of being included as an expert author on a blog called Girl Re-Imagined.

The concept for Girl Re-Imagined began as an experiential journey for the site’s founder, Sorilbran Stone. A mother, serial entrepreneur and information professional, Sorilbran has worked as a consultant for a wide range of micro-business owners and found that in business, much like in life, it is not the absence of ability and potential that keeps people from accomplishing their respective goals. 

Rather, it is the absence of strategies, resources and confidence that poses the greatest threat to success.

Particularly for women, the trap of even temporary poverty can quickly go from being situational to mental to permanent.  Girl Re-Imagined was designed to combat that threat.

Girl Re-Imagined helps women to attain self-sufficiency through the use of their own natural abilities and the implementation of intuitive, actionable strategies.  I am honoured to be part of such an amazing mission.

If you want to know more, you can visit the site here.

Or view my post here.

Stuck For An Idea Or Inspiration? Try These 10 Questions To Inspire And Motivate You

Many women tell me on a daily basis that they are sometimes stuck for a bit of inspiration in deciding what they are good at.  They would love to start a business or embark on a new venture, but frankly they don’t know where to start.

Yet, if you want to figure out who you really are, and what your contribution to the world could be, then you need to spend a little time getting to know yourself better.  Sure, it may be uncomfortable at times; but do you think anyone got a free ride to the top of their game?

Having what you want involves risk and discomfort.  

We are so used to living in the surface structure of our belief system, that we rarely delve deeper to uncover our true feelings on the subject at hand.  Kind of like when your husband asks, “What’s wrong?” and you immediately reply “Nothing.”

Often times, there is something wrong, but we just don’t know what it is.  But instead of being honest and admitting that we feel out of sorts but are unsure why, we numb the pain and pretend that we’re fine, when really we’re not.  We preoccupy ourselves with being busy, or we eat a chocolate muffin or drink a glass of wine, to cover the unpleasant feeling of not feeling okay.

Stepping out of your comfort zone is tough, but extremely rewarding.

Trust me, I’ve been there.  I was a stay at home mom to three young kids, beating myself up for wanting more than to be just a mom, but having no idea of how to get started on another path.  It took me a long time to decide to take that first step to starting my own business.

If you too, are struggling, and feel that you need a little inspiration, try asking yourself these questions:

  1. If you could spend your time doing anything during the day, what would it be?
  2. What do you do to relax when you are at home?
  3. What are your favourite sports or activities?
  4. Why are they your favourite?
  5. If you could make money doing it, what would you spend your time doing?
  6. If you are upset or feeling down, what cheers you up?
  7. When you’re alone and completely free to do anything, what do you do?
  8. What was your favourite childhood game or activity?
  9. What did you dream you would be when you grew up?
  10. Have there been any fears, phobias or challenges that you have overcome in your life?

A good way to use these questions is not to do them all at once.  You’ve waited this long, so a little longer won’t kill you.

Take one question, and meditate on it throughout the day.  Keep the question close by, or post it on your wall or computer screen.  Encourage yourself to think more deeply about the topic, and to really explore your belief system.

You might be surprised at what you find.

Do you have any questions you’d like to add to the list?  Or any inspiration you can share with other aspiring entrepreneurs?  I’d love to hear from you if you do.  Please feel free to post a comment below.  Both men and women contributors welcome!

 

 

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