Up until a year ago I was a SAHM (stay at home mum), when I decided to start my own business.
Luckily for me, the business I started was a multilingual kids company, so it meant that I had people to care for my children at home, while I had time to work.
But there are a few things you need to know before embarking on work from home:
You DO need to be disciplined and organised with your time.
You do need to have a schedule to work to, and you do need to commit to turning off the computer, sewing machine or whatever at 5pm so that you can concentrate fully on your family.
Personally, I haven’t found that full time child care is always necessary either. It’s amazing what you can achieve in a short space of time when it’s all you’ve got! I started my company only having childcare between 9am-12pm and I worked very hard in those times. I managed to grow the company to the extent that I can now afford full time care, but yet I get to see my kids every lunchtime and still have time to cook dinner each night.
However, I think the thing that we women struggle most with is the guilt. When our baby is born, we suddenly feel an immense responsibility to do the best by this perfect little being which means that often times we struggle with knowing just what is the best thing to do in each situation.
For me it was a matter of giving up control.
I felt that it would be good for them if I went back to work, yet I was hesitant to leave them in the care of someone else. It was like I believed that if they were going to be messed up, then I wanted the responsibility for that too. I felt so much pressure to to the “right” thing, that I found it hard to make a decision, for fear of making the wrong one.
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Parenting is tough. The responsibility for we have for the young lives we care for is a blessing, but it is a tough blessing that is riddled with indecision and doubt.
I think we need to go easy on ourselves and admit that we don’t always know the answer, or the right thing to do. As long as we love and care for our kids, to the very best of our ability, we can’t go too far wrong.